Giving up is what we do when the going gets tough, when things get too hard or we find the situation just a tad more difficult than we imagined. Of course, it would be remiss of me to say the answer to everything is to quit and walk away.įor every Walt, JK, Bill and Albert, there are hundreds of thousands of souls who are destined never to reach their true potential because they quit too soon, too fast or too deeply.īecause I believe there is a difference between quitting and giving up. They just knew, in that moment, they had to take some massive action, pull a handbrake turn and take their lives in a different direction.Īnd we’ve all been there: When it feels like all is lost, in that daunting, head-spinning, crisis point when we have no idea how it’s going to work out…but at the same time we are absolutely, 100% certain that the purpose and destiny of our lives isn’t this. Gates, Disney, Einstein, Rowling (there’s a dinner party to remember) didn’t know their futures were going to turn the way they did. Perhaps we see red, storm out, say and do things that can’t be undone. It is what needs to happen.Īnd maybe we don’t realise it immediately. It takes us to new places, careers, relationships and adventures. Sometimes, quitting, failing and messing up is absolutely the right thing. I was worried these blotches on my copybook of life would make me less appealing, less successful and more like…a bit of a loser.īut then I realised something that a million Google motivational quotes could not teach me: I used to desperately hide these incidents like a teenage boy fumbling to close a website with one hand when they hear a parent outside their bedroom door. The times I’ve quit the many occasions I’ve lost the moments I’ve come up short. I see not a loser, only a person who is determined to focus their energy in a different direction. Quitting is telling the world, “I deserve better than this, so I am going to do what I need to do so I can live to fight another day”. Quitting is saying, “I am no longer prepared to tolerate this situation”. I’m sure Harry Potter and his chums are glad she did. Quitting the US Army probably wasn’t the worst idea Walt Disney ever hadĪnd quitting an unhappy, controlling marriage arguably was the best idea J K Rowling ever conceived. Quitting Zurich Polytechnic School seemed to go alright for Albert Einstein. Quitting an uninspiring college degree didn’t work out too badly for Bill Gates. Sometimes quitting – not to mention losing, failing and spectacularly imploding – can be the absolute BEST thing that a person can do. There’s An ‘I’ In Quitīut here’s what people tend to overlook when they are so determined to avoid being labelled as a quitter: And it seems a lot of people prefer to be seen as an unhappy winner than a happy loser. Six out of 10 couples in America are unhappy in their marriages, but they don’t want to quit.Īfter all, quitting is for losers. We hate to be perceived as ‘giving up’, ‘walking away’ or – whisper it – ‘failing’ in a marriage, job, friendship, challenge, or whatever else may be occupying our life at that particular moment.Ģ5% of British workers are unhappy in their job, but they don’t want to quit. We tend to put up with a lot more misery than we really should, because we don’t want to be seen as ‘quitters’. Would they, therefore, be giving up their chance of being seen as ‘winners’? Or quit a race when they were injured and risked doing long-lasting damage to themselves. Or quit a group of so-called friends who were leading them down the wrong path in life. Or quit an abusive, constrictive relationship. So ‘winners never quit’, do they? Does this mean if someone wanted to quit a job and follow a dream, But that’s a story for another day.Įmpty motivational phrases are not only of little use when it comes to getting us out of a sticky situation, but they can also do more harm than good. I do, however, recommend flicking to the search engine on occasions such as when my ‘friend’ slipped in the shower and accidentally got a carrot stuck inside himself. The first thing I decided to quit was…resorting to Google whenver I needed to get myself out of a psychological crisis. Perhaps I could magic up some Google motivation and throw some phrases at you like ‘ quitters never win, and winners never quit’ or perhaps ‘the struggle is temporary, but quitting lasts forever’. It would be so painfully boring, so monotonously generic, if I sat here and listed all the things I was wonderful at (and, as you saw in a previous post, this would also be a blatant lie). I’m A Loser And A Failure, A Quitter And A Dud.
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